FORT WAYNE, Ind. (Fort Wayne’s NBC) – It’s easy for a parent to lose his or her temper when a baby won’t stop crying.
A city man accused of abusing his three-month old son told a police officer he lashed out when the baby’s crying caused frustrations to boil over.
We talked with a neighbor who said she is heartbroken about the situation and an agency dedicated to preventing this kind of tragedy.
23-year old Tristan Frayer faces charges of aggravated battery and child neglect.
Frayer’s baby son was hustled to the hospital last Friday by the child’s mother after the infant couldn’t sleep and kept crying.
Doctors noted the baby had a skull fracture, fractured ribs and bruises that were up to three weeks old.
A police officer, in court documents, reported that Frayer told him, last Thursday, while he was watching the little boy, it wouldn’t stop crying, and he “lost it”, prompting him to grab, squeeze and toss the child onto a bed.
The baby had bleeding on the brain, which can be deadly.
Neighbor Nancy Weikart says the family had been living next to her for about a year.
She says if Frayer would have approached her, she would have gladly given him a break.
“But I think he might have been too shy to come over or too embarrassed, it’s something a parent don’t want to admit, that they can’t handle a child,” Weikart said.
SCAN, or Stop Child Abuse and Neglect, shared a video with us, titled, “The Period of Purple Crying”, detailing how it’s normal in the first five months for healthy babies to cry a lot.
It’s also normal for parents to feel the strain.
The agency says it’s a good idea for parents to figure out ahead of time where they can turn for help when parenting responsibilities get burdensome.
“Creating what we call an eco-map, who are your supports around you that you can call at any given moment, or what can you do when those situations arise,” said Dee Szyndrowski with SCAN.
You can contact SCAN’s community partners prevention program, and someone can step in to assist at no cost.
The number is 800-752-7116.